Learn about the Dreaded Drama Triangle™ (originally the Karpman Drama Triangle) and how to escape its toxic nature with TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™. TED* has the power to dramatically shift your life and relationships – at home and at work – from drama filled to empowered. TED* works to transform the dynamics of individuals, teams, organizations, couples, and families to promote cooperation, communication and positive outcomes.
Making Shifts Happen
Shifting out of the drama triangle into a positive approach to life’s challenges transforms how you experience life and interact in relationships.
Shifts Happen by:
- Focusing on what we want rather than what we don’t want
- Moving from reacting to responding to life experiences
- Reconnecting and focusing on our dreams and desired outcomes
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David remembers a time when he was working with an executive who had just been promoted to a leadership position. Wanting to make a positive impact, the leader convened several meetings with his new direct reports to answer this question: “What problems do we need to address?” The staff was not initially aware of a […]
Do you sometimes struggle with finding your true life purpose? Motivational speakers and self-help books often give similar advice that goes like this: “You have been put on earth for a unique purpose. Find your unique purpose and life will be blissful.” That’s a lot of pressure! What happens when you don’t feel connected to […]
Before emails, TV’s, radio, telegrams and the printing press, human beings communicated face-to-face. They sat around the camp fire or on their front porch and listened to each other. Storytellers were revered for their ability to remember vast details of family history and epic events, while people intently listened so they could pass information on […]
Learning about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™ roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer is often a huge epiphany for people. Once they see these roles play out in their own lives, they dislike the limitations and suffering they now recognize are happening when living inside the DDT. Most people tell us they appreciate learning about […]
There is a law of physics called “resistance.” It refers to the hindrance of electricity along wires or the interference to the movement of electrons zigzagging from atom to atom. The law states that the greater the resistance, the greater the interruption and flow of energy. The feeling of resistance isn’t fun at all. You […]
Donna shares a story about one morning – years ago as a full-time working mom and wife with 3 children – when she woke up and realized she wasn’t responsible for the sun rising that morning. While she can laugh about it now, it was a very serious moment in her early adult years. Intellectually, […]
Sometimes the smallest stimulus can irritate us and send us into a dizzying cycle of reactive, drama-filled behavior. We call a stimulus that impacts behavior a “trigger.” Triggers can be either positive or negative. An example of a positive trigger is smiling back at a smiling baby. However, it is the negative triggers that we […]
Solving a problem works really well when you need specific information. If your computer isn’t working, you need concrete information about how to get it working again. If you have the wrong address for an appointment, that’s a problem. You need the correct address. Life and relationships are far more complex. When it comes to […]
There is a part of all of us that wants to be a star. Whether we secretly wish for our “star moment” or we are intentionally pursuing a starring role at work or in the movies, part of human nature yearns to be seen as special. This is the part of our healthy ego that […]
There’s a story about a young boy who loved his goldfish. He spent hours watching them swim in circles in their small glass fishbowl. But sometimes he felt sad for the fish because their small fishbowl caused them to swim in tiny circles. One day he filled his big bath tub and gently placed each […]
If you have listened to any of the US Presidential debates, it is clear we live in a culture of “telling.” Our American culture is based upon rugged individualism, competition and getting things done fast. Therefore, it’s no surprise candidates have succumbed to telling us, in boisterous and sometimes very rude voices, how they will […]
Continuous learning is an essential quality in the life of a Creator. We try to practice that in our own work and lives. This year, Donna will be engaging with the NeuroLeadership Institute, while David is currently enrolled in an e-learning class with Brene Brown, author and researcher who has spent over a decade studying […]
Many things have an operating system. When you understand the system you can improve how it works or use it more effectively. Computers are often used as a metaphor to explain why the operating system is important. At the heart of a computer is its operating system (think i0S, Windows or Linux), which actually runs […]
People generally have good intentions but often fail to act on what they say they really want. That aligns with what we hear in our Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™ workshops. When participants learn about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™ and the more resourceful TED* framework, they want to immediately end the drama in […]
This week we want to share more about the Persecutor role in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™. To the Victim, the Persecutor is the “problem” that they are reacting to. It could be a person or circumstance. A health condition, for example, is often seen as a Persecutor. In this essay we are describing the […]