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Beware of the Drama Triangle in Client Relationships
By David C. Knoch
As we think about it more, we may realize that at the times we find ourselves operating at our best, we are not actually helping clients solve problems, but instead helping them achieve their ideal outcomes….
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We first heard the statement, “TED* changes your brain” from a friend who is a clinical psychologist. Donna’s background is in mental health nursing so the statement immediately caught her attention. Learning how your brain works is useful because scientists can now map what happens in your brain when you sense danger, fear or anxiety. […]
Relationships are not always goodness and light. Whether at home or work, relationships often breakdown and can go through difficult stretches. While we teach and try daily to practice the ways of relating found in The Power of TED*, we know that such work is a lifelong learning process. As a married couple, and also […]
One of our favorite Challenger quotes comes from Helen Keller, the first deafblind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree: “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight and no vision.” It is so easy in today’s fast-paced, “always on” world to go through your day merely reacting to whatever is going […]
After an upsetting conversation, do you ever look back and say to yourself, “I wish I hadn’t said that?” Or maybe you regret taking charge of a situation when it really wasn’t your place to intervene. Later you wish you had thought before you made suggestions or took charge. We all do this at times […]
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