Applying TED*

The Power of TED* provides an antidote to the toxic roles found in the Dreaded Drama Triangle™.

Ultimately, the true power of TED* is to create a world that works for all of us, by:

  • Seeing all those around us as Creators in their own right,
  • Empowering ourselves and others to take action, and
  • Being constructive Challengers and Coaches as we co-create with others.

Learn More About TED*
In addition to reading The Power of TED* and purchasing the companion workbook (A Personal Guide to Applying TED* to Your Daily Life), join our growing learning community and start applying TED* principles to your life and relationships. Choose TED* today!

Put TED* Into Practice and Escape the Drama Triangle

People often ask about tips to putting TED* into practice on a daily basis. Author David Emerald offers additional simple—yet challenging—daily disciplines for you to consider:

  1. Start Your Day with Intention—enjoy 15-30 minutes of quiet time to reflect, choose and commit to your Baby Steps for the day. Review your commitment to making choices that support your vision(s).
  2. Take “Time Outs”—every 2 hours (set an alarm or reminder), check in and see if you are still on track with your intentions and action plan.
  3. Live as a Creator—see everyone as a Creator, which can have an amazing impact on the way you respond to people and situations.
  4. Support as a Coach—ask first, tell second. A Coach asks good questions to help the other person to clarify outcomes, identify Baby Steps for moving forward, and choose how to react.
  5. Check Your Intention—is your intention to look good or to further learning? A Challenger focuses on improvement and growth while encouraging others to take action towards their goals.
  6. Speak to What You Want—instead of getting sucked in to “poor me” conversations and attitudes, speak to choices and to what you want—and encourage yourself and others to create positive outcomes.
  7. End Your Day With Reflection—at the end of each day, take 10 minutes to look back on the day. Were you able to see others as Creators? Did you ask questions and provide positive reinforcement? Did you encourage others to take actions towards their goals? Don’t judge yourself as good or bad, just identify where you are and how you might continue to grow.


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