How Do I See Others?
A pivotal role within TED* (* The Empowerment Dynamic), a Coach views others as being ultimately capable and resourceful. A Coach sees each person as a Creator in their own right, and seeks to support them in the process of creating outcomes.
“A TED* Coach is fully engaged in the field of play—the Creator Orientation—in his or her own life. First and foremost, a Coach knows he or she is a Creator, and sees other people as Creators as well… A Coach leaves power with the Creator and seeks only to help facilitate personal progress. A Coach is an embodiment of a Creator’s desire to share power with another.”
- The Power of TED*, chapter 8
A Coach asks questions that help clarify envisioned outcomes, current realities, and possible Baby Steps (small sequential actions that lead toward lasting change). A Coach dares a Creator to dream and look for pathways for manifesting their visions.
A Coach is also the antidote to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer, as originally identified in the Karpman Drama Triangle. The Rescuer is any person or activity (such as an addiction) that serves to help a Victim relieve the “pain” of Victimhood. As an activity, the Rescuer helps the Victim “numb out”.
Despite having helpful intentions, the Rescuer as a person reinforces the Victim’s “poor me” self-identity and reinforces the Victim’s sense of powerlessness. This renders the Victim dependent upon the Rescuer for a sense of safety – a bond forged by the Victim’s shame for needing to be rescued and cemented by the Rescuer’s own fear of abandonment or loss of purpose.
Power of TED* Book Notes
- Learn more about the Creator role in Chapter 6, “The Creator Orientation” and Chapter 8, “The Empowerment Dynamic”
- Learn more about the Persecutor role in Chapter 2, “The Dreaded Drama Triangle”