We create by taking “baby steps”- those everyday actions we take to bring into manifestation our envisioned outcomes.  That is the way of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) ™ and its antidote way of being that stands in contrast to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) ™.

The baby steps we take can be as simple as making a phone call; having a particular conversation; reading an article or chapter in a book; talking with a Coach; gathering information – anything that furthers action toward an outcome.

When we take a baby step, one of three things will happen:

  1. We make forward progress – The step we take is a positive step in the direction of the outcome.  This helps build momentum and may help us further clarify the vision and/or the way forward.
  2. We take a step “backwards” – Sometimes the steps take do not produce the forward progress we envisioned or hoped for.  (For instance, an important conversation may not have gone the way we anticipated that it would.)  Even a “step back” can provide important learning and information about what next steps to take.
  3. We experience a “quantum leap” – We never know when a baby step will propel us forward in ways we could not have anticipated and would not have occurred had we not taken the step.  Doors open; serendipity and synchronicity show up; breakthroughs happen.

Regardless of which of these three possibilities result from our baby steps, each contributes to clarifying and creating our envisioned outcomes.

Seeing Reality for What It Is

One of the disciplines the is central to harnessing Dynamic Tension (see chapter XX in The Power of TED*) is that of telling the truth about current reality.

Jack Welch – the former CEO of General Electric – once wrote in a GE Annual Report: “What determines our destiny is not the hand we are dealt, but how we play the hand.  And the way to play the hand is to see reality for what it is and to act accordingly.”

See reality for what it is.  Determine what supports and is aligned with your envisioned outcome.  Also acknowledge those aspects of current reality that inhibit your forward progress.  What obstacles and problems stand as Challengers that call forth learning and new action to overcome?

By seeing reality for what it is, we can then determine the next baby steps to take.