Politics is one area of public life in which we see the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) ™ play out over and over again – a topic that I write on from time to time. (Previous topics include “Persecuting in Politics” and “Politics and the Drama Triangle.”)
This is one of those times. Unless you are a “news agnostic,” you already know that the United States faces a huge financial Challenger in the form of the national debt. I would love to be a “fly on the wall” of the meetings, negotiations, and discussions that are taking place in Washington D.C. – especially if I could talk and add my two-cents-worth.
What I would be saying would not be about politics and positioning – it would be about the process of creating outcomes and the encouragement to adopt a Creator Orientation.
Perhaps they have and we just are not privy to those private interactions. However, from all the news conferences and sound bites, it appears as if those involved are problem-focused, anxiety (fear) fueled and quite reactive to the problem at hand and to those who think differently.
So much of what we hear is language consistent with the Victim Orientation, with its focus on what we don’t want (be it tax increases or changes to social entitlement programs) and what we need to move away from (be that an unfair tax structure or a government that overspends). The problem of reacting to a problem is that the action we take often provides only short term relief – and may create additional problems or exacerbate the current situation.
In addition, while everyone feels like a Victim to the crises, there is plenty of language flying around that positions the opposition as Persecutors and “our position” as the Rescuer that can save the day.
Such “blame-gaming” does nothing more than perpetuate and accentuate the drama.
A few nights ago, while watching the evening news and coverage of the latest developments, my wife made the comment that one good thing to come out of this is the heightening of awareness of the national debt issue. As a Creator, when a problem arises, rather than react to it as a Persecutor, we can choose to respond by seeing the problem as a Challenger and the catalyst to create a new outcome.
As the “talking fly,” I would have those involved focus first and foremost on what the country needs to create that will prevent the crises from reoccurring. Once the vision was established, we would work Dynamic Tension by telling the truth about our current realities and committing to the baby step actions that would begin to build the bridge from where we are to a fiscally responsible future.
Don’t get me wrong – I am not complaining or blaming. I have a great deal of compassion for those who are deep in the muck. The national debt issue is incredibly complex and systemic in nature and “the fix” is not going to emerge fully formed in the next couple of weeks.
What it will take is for our elected officials to model the way of meeting the Challengers in our lives as Creators a baby step at a time. Oh, to be a fly on that wall!
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To the Creator in you!