Tomorrow (July 4th), in the United States, we celebrate Independence Day. The American Revolution and establishment of the idea of independence was a watershed movement for humanity. Up until that point in history, most cultures were deeply rooted in the paradigm of dependence in which “the masses” were dependent on kings, queens, dictators (benevolent or tyrants) or feudal lords to provide the systems and structures necessary for survival.
A declaration of independence was a Baby Step – really a quantum leap – toward humankind’s taking responsibility for being a Creator. But being an effective Creator goes beyond mere independence. All creating is collaborative – or interdependent – in nature. Even as I sit solo at my desk typing, I am working in collaboration with those who created the technology to make this blog possible, with those who taught and urged me to write, and with other authors/teachers who have influenced my thinking.
On such author is Stephen R. Covey. In his now classic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, frames his habits along a “maturity continuum” that provides a pathway to evolve from a paradigm of Dependence through Independence and, eventually, into Interdependence.
He refers to Dependence as the paradigm of “you.” You make me feel the way I do. I depend on you to take care of me or to give me a sense of worth and safety. Independence is the paradigm of “I.” I can choose what I want to create. I can choose my response to the circumstances I find myself facing. Interdependence is the paradigm of “we.” We are in this together. We are more powerful and effective together than alone.
The Power of TED* helps facilitate movement along that continuum. The Dreaded Dream Triangle (DDT)™ and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer are clearly rooted in the mindset of Dependence. Those who are addicted to drama depend on the DDT to give them focus and each of the roles are reacting to the others.
As we grow into TED* and develop the capabilities of the Creator, Challenger and Coach roles, they naturally progress into interacting with others and embodying the Interdependent paradigm as we collaborate with other Co-Creators. As mentioned in the January, 2011 “TED* Letter,” all creating requires some form of interdependence – we create outcomes collaboratively with others in some form of community.
As those in the U.S. celebrate the date in which our forebears declared their independence, let us each – no matter our nationality – declare our Interdependence as Co-Creators.