Those of us in the United States celebrate the July 4th Independence Day this weekend. This also brings to mind how TED* supports both our Independence and calls for the opportunity to declare our Interdependence.
Stephen R. Covey, in his now classic The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, frames his habits along a “maturity continuum” that helps us evolve from a paradigm of Dependence through Independence and, eventually, into Interdependence.
He refers to Dependence as the paradigm of “you.” You make me feel the way I do. I depend on you to take care of me or to give me a sense of worth and safety. Independence is the paradigm of “I.” I can choose what I want to create. I can choose my response to the circumstances I find myself facing. Interdependence is the paradigm of “we.” We are in this together. We are more powerful and effective together than alone.
The Power of TED* helps facilitate movement along that continuum. The Dreaded Dream Triangle (DDT) ™ and its roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer are clearly rooted in the mindset of Dependence. Those who are addicted to drama depend on the DDT to give them focus and each of the roles are reacting to other.
As we grow into TED* and develop the capabilities of the Creator, Challenger and Coach roles, they naturally progress into interacting with others and embodying the Interdependent paradigm as we collaborate with other Co-Creators. As mentioned in the January, 2011 “TED* Letter,” all creating requires some form of interdependence – we create outcomes collaboratively with others in some form of community.
As those in the U.S. celebration the date in which our forebears declared their independence, let us each – not matter our nationality – declare our Interdependence as Co-Creators.