The Power of TED*

You Don’t Have to Have it all Figured Out

debbie — Fri, 17 May 2013 07:05:03 +0000

This week we conducted an overview of the Power of TED* essential frameworks for an executive leadership team. When we got to the overview of Dynamic Tension as a framework for creating outcomes, we talked about what we call the 3-step dance as a way to create the outcomes we want. The 3-steps are: Focus …

Identify Your Reactive Triggers and Strategies

debbie — Fri, 10 May 2013 07:36:37 +0000

In our TED* work we contend that the Victim (or Problem) Orientation is our default mindset as human beings. This way of moving through our life experience has us primary focused on the problems we face in our life – and in the world. These problems engage an inner state of anxiety or fear which …

Letting Go of Perfectionism

debbie — Fri, 03 May 2013 07:03:50 +0000

Perfectionism can be an asset as we strive for continuous improvement. When perfectionism drives our entire way of relating to what we want to create, we may become a victim to our strong need to be perfect. If the need to be perfect feels more like a compulsive and chronic need to hide any flaws, …

Subscribe to our Friday Essay

debbie — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 19:55:50 +0000

TED* Works!™ is a short free weekly newsletter delivered via email. The newsletter features insights for putting the principles of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) into daily practice, both personally and professionally. By realizing we can be “at choice,” we can change our response to life experiences and reconnect with our ability to create positive results …

Seeing the Other as a Creator

debbie — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 07:15:46 +0000

The central role of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™ is that of a Creator. There are two primary aspects of being a Creator. One is, owning your power to choosing your response to life’s challenges regardless of the circumstances. Second, creating what you want. Cultivating these qualities in ourselves is always a growth experience. Seeing these …

Our Natural Negativity Bias Keeps Drama Alive

debbie — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 07:21:04 +0000

Negativity bias is a fancy term to explain the fact that we humans pay more attention to negative feelings or information than positive ones. In the TED* work we are often reminded that our human default way of being is to respond to problems, which will keep the drama alive if we are not aware …

The Gift of Forgiveness

debbie — Fri, 12 Apr 2013 07:37:49 +0000

Forgiving need not be outwardly focused. We may also need to give ourselves this precious gift. Let’s face it, there are times when we are our own worst Persecutors! I had the opportunity to experience this first-hand a while back. After 2 days of wonderful TED* workshops, I was at the airport working on my …

Mr. Bunny to the Rescue!

debbie — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:15:56 +0000

By Andrea Scott, TED* Practitioner (learn more about Andrea at: Infinite Possibilities Coaching) We are trained from an early age to deny our feelings. You may have heard similar phrases when you were young, “Stop crying. It will make you sick” or “Big boys don’t cry.” As we get older, it is no surprise that …

Going to the Balcony

debbie — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 07:25:40 +0000

What do you do when you are triggered by a person or an event and you “go reactive?” The situation could be a difficult discussion with someone at work; an argument with a spouse, significant other or child; an unexpected traffic jam. Life is full of opportunities to be triggered into reactivity and, hence, the …

Being Right Can Persecute Others

David Emerald — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 07:30:51 +0000

The role of the Persecutor in the Karpman Drama Triangle (Dreaded Drama Triangle™—DDT) puts others down by attempting to be “one up” in every conversation. Clinging to the need to be right is one of the fastest ways to persecute others. Because of the strong drive to succeed in our society, especially at work, we …