A friend of ours emailed my wife this joke the other day:
Why did it take the Buddha a month to vacuum out his apartment?
Because he didn’t have any attachments.
It brought a chuckle and a reminder of an important distinction I learned years ago from another friend. This friend is a practicing Buddhist. Regardless of your spiritual path or disciplines, the insight is an important one for those of us seeking to live as a Creator.
The distinctions are between Attachment; Detachment and Non-Attachment.
Attachment – Even as a Creator, we can too easily become attached to a particular way an outcome we are seeking to manifest will look; or the timeframe in which creating it will take place; or the way we want something to be. Attachment actually narrows our possibilities and can limit the flow of creative energy as we seek to “make it happen our way.”
Detachment – When we are detached, we give off an air of “I don’t care” and put no energy forward – or even withdraw it. The literal definition is telling here: “lack of interest in or involvement with other people or with worldly concerns” and “disinterestedness.” There is no connection. As a result, we can sometimes be perceived as a Persecutor and feed the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT).
Non-Attachment – This is the antidote to Attachment. There is a “middle way” in which we can care – and perhaps even deeply – while not being attached to a particular way an outcome should look or manifest or how something should be. As pointed out in The Power of TED*, every baby step we take in a Creator Orientation “gets us closer to – or clearer about – the outcome.” When we take this approach, we stay open to possibilities and unanticipated ways in which what we are creating make take form.
For example, when I first began the outline in preparation for writing TED*, I assumed that the book would be straight non-fiction. At the time I never dreamed it would take the form of a fable. However, as I worked with my editor and explored how best to explain The Empowerment Dynamic (TED), the fable format came into view. Had I been attached to a particular form, it would have resulted in a much different – and, I believe, weaker – outcome.
As a Creator, practice the discipline of Non-Attachment. You may be amazed at what emerges!