In our TED* work we contend that the Victim (or Problem) Orientation is our default mindset as human beings. This way of moving through our life experience has us primary focused on the problems we face in our life – and in the world. These problems engage an inner state of anxiety or fear which …
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What do you do when you are triggered by a person or an event and you “go reactive?” The situation could be a difficult discussion with someone at work; an argument with a spouse, significant other or child; an unexpected traffic jam. Life is full of opportunities to be triggered into reactivity and, hence, the …
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The role of the Persecutor in the Karpman Drama Triangle (Dreaded Drama Triangle™—DDT) puts others down by attempting to be “one up” in every conversation. Clinging to the need to be right is one of the fastest ways to persecute others. Because of the strong drive to succeed in our society, especially at work, we …
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A friend recently said to us, “I am learning to have fewer reactive conversations and more frequent creative conversations.” What simple advice! The question arises, when we go reactive, how do we shift to a creative conversation and embody the TED* roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach? We recommend hitting the pause button to lengthen …
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At the heart of the TED* roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach is love and appreciation for others. Co-Creators are genuinely interested in the views of others while still expressing what is true for them. Fear, however, is the emotion that drives all three roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor that make up the Dreaded …
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Last weekend we attended a local TEDx event. There were great live presenters, as well as a few presenters brought to us through video from other offerings of TED. (To clarify: TED here stands for Technology, Entertainment, and Design and is not related to our Power of TED* work.) One of the taped talks was …
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An experience of happiness often arises when we live in the empowered TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™ roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach. Feeling joy can actually be distressing for some of us because there is a tendency to feel we don’t deserve this much happiness. Modern living has created an expectation that we must always …
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How do you relate to your co-workers? Do you see many of them as problems to deal with or do you relate to them as Creators? How you answer these questions can have a great deal of impact on the satisfaction you have in your workplace, as well as on the quality of products and/or …
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Last week I was in India, serving as an executive coach in the School for Inspired Leadership (SOIL) and Mesa Research Group’s Global Leadership Program. During the program, we had the great pleasure of meeting and hearing from Arun Maira, who is a member of the Planning Commission of India and former chairman of the …
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I recently heard a senior executive of a major multinational company say that what we need is a “fear inspired event” to mobilize action. He cited the Soviet Union’s launching of the Sputnik satellite and the United States’ reaction that led to the formation of NASA (the National Aeronautics and Space Administration) and the entry …
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