In our TED* work we contend that the Victim (or Problem) Orientation is our default mindset as human beings. This way of moving through our life experience has us primary focused on the problems we face in our life – and in the world. These problems engage an inner state of anxiety or fear which …
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The central role of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™ is that of a Creator. There are two primary aspects of being a Creator. One is, owning your power to choosing your response to life’s challenges regardless of the circumstances. Second, creating what you want. Cultivating these qualities in ourselves is always a growth experience. Seeing these …
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By Andrea Scott, TED* Practitioner (learn more about Andrea at: Infinite Possibilities Coaching) We are trained from an early age to deny our feelings. You may have heard similar phrases when you were young, “Stop crying. It will make you sick” or “Big boys don’t cry.” As we get older, it is no surprise that …
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What do you do when you are triggered by a person or an event and you “go reactive?” The situation could be a difficult discussion with someone at work; an argument with a spouse, significant other or child; an unexpected traffic jam. Life is full of opportunities to be triggered into reactivity and, hence, the …
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The role of the Persecutor in the Karpman Drama Triangle (Dreaded Drama Triangle™—DDT) puts others down by attempting to be “one up” in every conversation. Clinging to the need to be right is one of the fastest ways to persecute others. Because of the strong drive to succeed in our society, especially at work, we …
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One of the fastest ways to feel like a Victim is to compare yourself to others. We may say to ourselves: “Why can’t I look that beautiful or be that smart or talented?” Another thought might be: “Down deep, I really don’t know what I am doing but it seems like other people do.” Or, …
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The feeling of desire is tricky. On one hand, desire generates passion and helps us create what we really care about. On the other hand, if we obsess about something we want, our desire can become an attachment or even have an addictive quality that screams: “I have to have it now!” Desire can pull …
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A friend recently said to us, “I am learning to have fewer reactive conversations and more frequent creative conversations.” What simple advice! The question arises, when we go reactive, how do we shift to a creative conversation and embody the TED* roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach? We recommend hitting the pause button to lengthen …
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At the heart of the TED* roles of Creator, Challenger and Coach is love and appreciation for others. Co-Creators are genuinely interested in the views of others while still expressing what is true for them. Fear, however, is the emotion that drives all three roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor that make up the Dreaded …
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Last weekend we attended a local TEDx event. There were great live presenters, as well as a few presenters brought to us through video from other offerings of TED. (To clarify: TED here stands for Technology, Entertainment, and Design and is not related to our Power of TED* work.) One of the taped talks was …
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