As we make the shift between the Victim Orientation to a Creator Orientation – or from the roles of Victim to Creator; Persecutor to Challenger; or Rescuer to Coach – we will frustrate ourselves if we expect that we are going to always (and in every situation) be successful.

The way of forward progress is not an easy climb of continuous forward progress.  Oh, wish that it were so!  Instead, it is a combination of steps forward – and even breakthroughs at times – and missteps that seem impede our progress.

Living more fully and consistently as a Creator and cultivating our capacity to embody the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) roles in our relationships, is a vision which we live into, and toward which we will strive, for the rest of our lives.

One of the keys to forward progress is the practice of “Catch and Correct.”  When you experience some sort of misstep – unconsciously reacting to problems; feeling like a victim; attempting to fix and rescue another; trying to control a person or a situation – that is the time to “Catch and Correct.”

Just notice the misstep and then “correct” by choosing to shift your focus in a more resourceful and responsive direction.  Ask yourself “What do I want to create in this situation?” Rather than rescuing, be of service as a coach.  Instead of controlling, perhaps taking a stand for what you want and adopting the role of Challenger is what is called for.

For me, the measure of forward progress is based on “catching” myself more quickly (i.e. spending less time in a reactive space or role) and “correcting” more consciously and effectively.


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