Talk is constant and pretty “cheap” these days. Anyone, anywhere, anytime can post a comment on the many social media sites and talk, talk, talk. There are over 60 billion social media posts per day and the average person spends 140 minutes each day on social media! But W.A.I.T. and ask yourself: “Why Am I […]
If you stop and listen, it is amazing how many voices we all have in our heads. It’s part of the perplexing human experience and sometimes it is confusing to know which voice to listen to. We have discovered that our Victim voice tends to “yell” while our Creator voice “whispers.” The Dreaded Drama Triangle […]
Great questions trigger ideas and powerful new insights. Depending on the tone and intention behind your questions, they can also come across as condescending and manipulative. What is the secret behind an empowered question that can unlock creativity and invite others to open-up and share? You may be asking zillions of questions and have bits […]
Do you feel uncomfortable when conflicts arise? If so, you may avoid a conflict like the plague and retreat, feeling powerless and victimized by the situation which, of course, places you in the Victim role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). A second way to deal with conflict may be your desire to control the […]
Drama is something that everyone experiences. Have you ever wondered why that is? Let’s start at the beginning and ask: How does our drama begin in the first place? The simple, yet complex, explanation is that all of us as human beings learn and develop strategies to get what we want as children and to […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why […]
Whether at the office or home, it is common to prematurely rush into problem solving mode rather than simply listening to the other person as they share their feelings. Communication experts describe several reasons why it is easier to rush to problem solving. They are: Being intellectual and rational is highly valued in the Western […]
Do you experience drama in your work and life? Do turf wars or ineffective team dynamics exist in your organization? We all experience some level of drama. It is part of the human experience. The costs of drama — both at work and personally — can be tremendous, as described in David’s new book, 3 […]
There’s a story about a man who calls a good friend to talk about his problems. After talking at length about his complaints, he stops and asks his friend, “Are you still listening to me? You haven’t said a word.” His friend says, “I’m trying not to. If you keep going, I might start believing […]
When driving an unfamiliar car, one of the first things you may do is adjust the mirrors, looking for the car’s blind spots. Like a car, your mind also has blind spots. The mind’s blind spots are a way of narrowing what you can take in. You can’t notice everything or you would be on […]