Sometimes the smallest stimulus can irritate us and send us into a dizzying cycle of reactive, drama-filled behavior. We call a stimulus that impacts behavior a “trigger.” Triggers can be both positive and negative. An example of a positive trigger is smiling back at a smiling baby. However, it is the negative triggers that we […]
There are some things that are a fact of life. Gravity for example. You don’t resist the law of gravity. You accept that gravity stops you from flying. You can’t jump that high, so you don’t even try. When you accept a fact of life, such as the law of gravity, it liberates you from […]
Since first publishing The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) we have heard instances of how some people are using the framework in less than desirable ways. Here are a few examples; “After attending your workshop, I told my team they act like Victims and should stop their complaining and get their work done on […]
A friend recently said to us, “I am learning to have fewer reactive conversations and more healthy conversations.” What simple advice! The question arises, when you go reactive; how do you shift to a more creative and healthy conversation? We recommend hitting the pause button to lengthen the choice-point between when you might get triggered […]
Last week we wrote about shifting from the Victim role that is central to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) toward embracing the role of a Creator, that is at the heart of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)®. This week we want to consider the shift from Rescuer to Coach. Let’s begin by understanding how the DDT […]
When David first learned about the Karpman Drama Triangle and its roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer many years ago, he knew he had lived much of his life from a Victim point of view. One day in quiet time he asked: “Okay God. I don’t want to live my life as a Victim anymore, […]
If there is one core principle in which the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® work rests, it is this: You always have a choice about how you respond to life events. You may not like your choices, and your range of choices may be narrow. However, you always have a choice. How you choose […]
How do your creative thoughts become reality? How do you move beyond procrastinating and get into action? For an idea to grow beyond just a thought stuck in your head, you must get into action. Many people never get their great ideas out of their brains and into external reality. For an idea to grow […]
The feeling of desire is tricky. On one hand, desire generates passion and helps you create what you really care about. On the other hand, if you obsess about something you want, your desire can become an attachment or even have an addictive quality that screams: “I have to have it now.” Desire can […]
The Rescuer role is one of the three roles that make up the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). When in the Rescuer role you feel the strong urge to help others, so they don’t suffer or feel bad. In a nutshell, Rescuers are the helpers. Of the three roles in the DDT, it is the Rescuing […]