How do you relate to yourself? The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) is useful to help you observe how you relate to external circumstances and other people. It is also a valuable framework to help you self-observe and listen to the way you relate to yourself. Donna tells a story about how she “woke-up” to her […]
How do your creative thoughts become reality? How do you move beyond procrastinating and get into action? For an idea to grow beyond just a thought stuck in your head, you must get into action. Many people never get their great ideas out of their brains and into external reality. For an idea to grow […]
For those who routinely put things off to another day, procrastination jokes are not funny. (You’ve heard the one about the author who planned to write a book about procrastinating but never got around to writing it). We all delay getting things done from time to time, but people who habitually procrastinate tend to be […]
The feeling of desire is tricky. On one hand, desire generates passion and helps you create what you really care about. On the other hand, if you obsess about something you want, your desire can become an attachment or even have an addictive quality that screams: “I have to have it now.” Desire can […]
Solving a problem works really well when you need specific information. If your computer isn’t working, you need concrete information about how to get it working again. If you have the wrong address for an appointment, that’s a problem. You need the correct address. Life and relationships are far more complex, however, than just fixing […]
A friend and colleague shared with us a story about how she learned of her tendency to respond to requests that weren’t being made. This insight transformed the way she now listens and responds to the many demands in her life. Here is her story in her own words: “I was participating in an embodied […]
The emotion of hope is one of the most important and positive emotions available to human beings. When facing difficult times, such as an illness, a divorce or loss of a job, hope keeps us moving forward. As you create a new vision and desired outcome for your life, hope absolutely can give you energy […]
Working with people stuck in a Victim Mindset can be exhausting and infuriating. When they have a problem, they often prefer to complain or blame rather than focus on a solution. They cope with life by thinking there is some force outside of them that prevents them from taking charge of their life. We are not writing […]
At the end of a recent workshop, Donna asked each person to share one new habit they are committed to changing. One man said, “I want to stop taking things personally.” Others finished their checkout and the workshop ended. After the workshop, the man’s statement to not take things personally continued to echo in Donna’s […]
Mindfulness has become the new trend promoted in business magazines, militaries, schools and health care centers, to name just a few places. Mindfulness is based in meditation practices that are thousands of years old, so it’s hardly “new.” So, what’s all the “fuss” about? We think the popularity of mindfulness has evolved as new brain […]