This week we are sharing a story Donna received from one of her coaching clients. This client is an executive in a global consulting company, highly motivated and driven to succeed. She recently received feedback from her supervisor that the client labeled as “negative feedback.” She came to a coaching session with Donna upset and […]
Sometimes the smallest stimulus can irritate us and send us into a dizzying cycle of reactive, drama-filled behavior. We call a stimulus that impacts behavior a “trigger.” Triggers can be both positive and negative. An example of a positive trigger is smiling back at a smiling baby. However, it is the negative triggers that we […]
A friend recently said to us, “I am learning to have fewer reactive conversations and more healthy conversations.” What simple advice! The question arises, when you go reactive; how do you shift to a more creative and healthy conversation? We recommend hitting the pause button to lengthen the choice-point between when you might get triggered […]
In our last two essays, we wrote about how to shift from two of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles to the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles: Victim to Creator and Rescuer to Coach. This week we tackle the third role shift: Persecutor to Challenger. Many people tell us they resist embracing the Challenger role […]
Last week we wrote about shifting from the Victim role that is central to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) toward embracing the role of a Creator, that is at the heart of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)®. This week we want to consider the shift from Rescuer to Coach. Let’s begin by understanding how the DDT […]
When David first learned about the Karpman Drama Triangle and its roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer many years ago, he knew he had lived much of his life from a Victim point of view. One day in quiet time he asked: “Okay God. I don’t want to live my life as a Victim anymore, […]
If there is one core principle in which the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® work rests, it is this: You always have a choice about how you respond to life events. You may not like your choices, and your range of choices may be narrow. However, you always have a choice. How you choose […]
How do your creative thoughts become reality? How do you move beyond procrastinating and get into action? For an idea to grow beyond just a thought stuck in your head, you must get into action. Many people never get their great ideas out of their brains and into external reality. For an idea to grow […]
For those who routinely put things off to another day, procrastination jokes are not funny. (You’ve heard the one about the author who planned to write a book about procrastinating but never got around to writing it). We all delay getting things done from time to time, but people who habitually procrastinate tend to be […]
Here in the United States, the summer mega-hit movies are coming out. There are more hero-action films than ever, including sequels starring just about every action figure ever created. When looking at the list of movies, we were reminded of the phrase we heard from a spiritual teacher. He said: “One way to stop life’s […]