Next week is the Thanksgiving holiday in the United States. Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday because it celebrates an attitude of gratitude—one of the most important practices to cultivate as a Creator. Giving thanks and feeling grateful is a fundamental principle in all the great cultures and religions. You are supposed to feel grateful, right? […]
Have you ever stepped back and reflected on the tone and quality of the conversations you have with coworkers, friends, or family members? It’s amazing how much time and effort goes into talking about what’s wrong with this, or what we don’t like about that. We call such interactions the “Kinship of Victimhood.” One definition […]
Do you feel uncomfortable when conflicts arise? If so, you may avoid a conflict like the plague and retreat, feeling powerless and victimized by the situation which, of course, places you in the Victim role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT). A second way to deal with conflict may be your desire to control the […]
We are being inundated today with information and a life at lightning-speed unlike any time in history. This is a big deal because our bodies and minds were not built for this complexity so, as a species, we humans are becoming more hyperactive and hypersensitive. We are training ourselves to “loathe the moment” and fill […]
There is a story about two young twin brothers who walked into a barn with their grandfather. One boy complained about the foul-smelling manure and ran out of the barn while complaining about getting manure on his shoes. The other boy raced through the barn with excitement and yelled to his grandfather, “With all this […]
Drama is something that everyone experiences. Have you ever wondered why that is? Let’s start at the beginning and ask: How does our drama begin in the first place? The simple, yet complex, explanation is that all of us as human beings learn and develop strategies to get what we want as children and to […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why […]
We’ve all experienced situations where we have strong expectations and attachments to how things should be. When we get attached, it often means we’ve put blinders on and get stuck into seeing only one way things could be. Strong expectations, when not fulfilled, can set you up to feel like a Victim when events unfold […]
The inner-Persecutor is that voice in your head that is often harsh, condescending, and even rude. For some people, their inner-Persecutor is a jarring and constant chatter, for others, it babbles in the background and is not always obvious, but its oppressive judgments may still be felt. Even though it may not appear so, the […]
Whether at the office or home, it is common to prematurely rush into problem solving mode rather than simply listening to the other person as they share their feelings. Communication experts describe several reasons why it is easier to rush to problem solving. They are: Being intellectual and rational is highly valued in the Western […]