Recovering from the “eager-to-please” syndrome that is deeply rooted in the Rescuer role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), can be a challenge. When being the Rescuer is your “go to” role in the DDT, you easily take on being helpful and pleasing to others as a self-identify. Your focus is on the needs of […]
We all have responsibilities and obligations. It is part of being in relationships with family, co-workers, neighbors, and life. Donna shares a story about one morning – years ago as a full-time working mom, wife and mother with 3 children – when she woke up and realized she wasn’t responsible for the sun rising that […]
In the Northern hemisphere on December 21 at precisely 5:23 PM Eastern Standard Time, the earth shifts on its axis. This is remarkable, considering the earth is whirling around the sun at 67,000 miles per hour! In the middle of traveling at this mind-blowing speed, at this precise moment, the earth turns and reverses its […]
The language you choose to use will either put you on the path of creating the life you want, or it will feed what you don’t want. One way of speaking reinforces a victim mentality the other way strengthens your true essence as a Creator, the central role in TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)®. The challenge […]
How do you relate to yourself? The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) is useful to help you observe how you relate to external circumstances and other people. It is also a valuable framework to help you self-observe and listen to the way you relate to yourself. Donna tells a story about how she “woke-up” to her […]
Learning about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer is often a huge epiphany for people. Once shared, the DDT roles are easy to recognize because they line-up with the flight, flight, freeze, or appease reactive mechanism that is built into the human psyche. Becoming more aware of personal drama is […]
This Thursday in the United States we celebrated the Thanksgiving holiday. Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday because it celebrates an attitude of gratitude—one of the most important practices to cultivate as a Creator. Gratitude is an emotional response to what you appreciate and is a choice you make. You can choose to be grateful…..or not. While […]
As young school children we are taught to ask the teacher for help and receive feedback to help us learn. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive response all-too-well. Since we co-facilitate the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) workshops together, after each workshop we […]
Each of us have the capacity to optimize our life experience so that we are aligned with our true essence and unlimited potential as Creators. We do not need to remain in fixed patterns of reactivity and drama. But the challenge is this: we see drama in others far sooner than we see it in […]
This week we are sharing a story Donna received from one of her coaching clients. This client is an executive in a global consulting company, highly motivated and driven to succeed. She recently received feedback from her supervisor that the client labeled as “negative feedback.” She came to a coaching session with Donna upset and […]