The language you choose to use will either put you on the path of creating the life you want, or it will feed what you don’t want. One way of speaking reinforces a victim mentality the other way strengthens your true essence as a Creator, the central role in TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)®. The challenge […]
How do you relate to yourself? The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) is useful to help you observe how you relate to external circumstances and other people. It is also a valuable framework to help you self-observe and listen to the way you relate to yourself. Donna tells a story about how she “woke-up” to her […]
Learning about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer is often a huge epiphany for people. Once shared, the DDT roles are easy to recognize because they line-up with the flight, flight, freeze, or appease reactive mechanism that is built into the human psyche. Becoming more aware of personal drama is […]
This Thursday in the United States we celebrated the Thanksgiving holiday. Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday because it celebrates an attitude of gratitude—one of the most important practices to cultivate as a Creator. Gratitude is an emotional response to what you appreciate and is a choice you make. You can choose to be grateful…..or not. While […]
As young school children we are taught to ask the teacher for help and receive feedback to help us learn. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive response all-too-well. Since we co-facilitate the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) workshops together, after each workshop we […]
Each of us have the capacity to optimize our life experience so that we are aligned with our true essence and unlimited potential as Creators. We do not need to remain in fixed patterns of reactivity and drama. But the challenge is this: we see drama in others far sooner than we see it in […]
This week we are sharing a story Donna received from one of her coaching clients. This client is an executive in a global consulting company, highly motivated and driven to succeed. She recently received feedback from her supervisor that the client labeled as “negative feedback.” She came to a coaching session with Donna upset and […]
Sometimes the smallest stimulus can irritate us and send us into a dizzying cycle of reactive, drama-filled behavior. We call a stimulus that impacts behavior a “trigger.” Triggers can be both positive and negative. An example of a positive trigger is smiling back at a smiling baby. However, it is the negative triggers that we […]
A friend recently said to us, “I am learning to have fewer reactive conversations and more healthy conversations.” What simple advice! The question arises, when you go reactive; how do you shift to a more creative and healthy conversation? We recommend hitting the pause button to lengthen the choice-point between when you might get triggered […]
In our last two essays, we wrote about how to shift from two of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles to the TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)® roles: Victim to Creator and Rescuer to Coach. This week we tackle the third role shift: Persecutor to Challenger. Many people tell us they resist embracing the Challenger role […]