Coach How Do I See Others?
A Coach asks questions that help clarify envisioned outcomes, current realities, and possible Baby Steps (small sequential actions that lead toward lasting change). A Coach dares a Creator to dream and look for pathways for bringing their envisioned outcomes to fruition.
A Coach is the antidote to the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) role of Rescuer, as originally identified in the Karpman Drama Triangle. The Rescuer is any person or activity (such as an addiction) that serves to help a Victim relieve the “pain” of Victimhood. As an activity, the Rescuer helps the Victim “numb out”.
Despite having helpful intentions, the Rescuer as a person reinforces the Victim’s “poor me” self-identity and reinforces the Victim’s sense of powerlessness. This renders the Victim dependent upon the Rescuer for a sense of safety – a bond forged by the Victim’s shame for needing to be rescued and cemented by the Rescuer’s own fear of abandonment or loss of purpose.
A Coach supports, yet keeps, the “power” with the other and encourages independence and interdependence on those they serve.
Power of TED* Book Notes
- Learn more about the Creator role in Chapter 6, “The Creator Orientation” and Chapter 8, “The Empowerment Dynamic”
- Learn more about the Persecutor role in Chapter 2, “The Dreaded Drama Triangle”