Last weekend a friend and colleague – who is a committed Creator – had their car broken into (window smashed) and items stolen from it. This was yet another reminder that even Creators are sometimes victimized. Victimization is part of the human experience.
Victimization is any situation in which a “dream or desire” is denied or thwarted – any situation. Victimization can be caused by people, by conditions (such as a health condition), or circumstances (such as a natural disaster).
There is a very wide range of victimization that occurs in the world and in our lives. Think of this range along a scale of 1 to 10. At the high end of the range (9-10) is extreme victimization. Those who are victimized by war or oppression or by natural disasters certainly experience the high end of the scale. There are many whose daily lives are bound up in such extreme conditions where survival needs are paramount.
At the other end of the scale (1-2) are experiences of “mundane victimization.” A driver cuts in front of you on the road; you temporarily lose electricity because of a storm; your computer goes on the blink; a co-worker is late in getting information to you for a report you are writing – all are examples.
As a Creator, when we experience victimization we remember that we have the capacity to choose our response – even in the event of extreme victimization. In The Power of TED*, Sophia recounts Victor Frankl’s revelation, during his internment in Nazi concentration camps, that “everything can be taken from a (person) but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” This is truly the statement of a Creator in the face of the most extreme of circumstances. While the range of choices available to him were slim indeed, he realized he was still “at choice” on how to respond to his harsh human experience.
As human beings we will always have experiences of victimization. For some in our world, the cases may be of the extreme variety, which call for our compassion and active support whenever we can. However, for most of us – most of the time – it will be the everyday, mundane victimization (a 1-3 on the Victim Rating Scale) that happens at work, at home, in our communities.
Where on the continuum my friend would place their experience of victimization is up to them to decide. However, when victimization occurs, remember that you can always be “at choice” in how you respond in the long run.
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