A friend recently sent a series of inspirational sayings, one of which was:
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
Part of the human experience is that “storms happen.” Whether it is the weather, or the Challenger of a disrespectful teenager (or spouse, friend, or coworker) or ill health or loss of economic resources, how we choose to respond depends on which orientation – Victim or Creator – we are centered in.
As a Victim, we will engage in reacting through various forms of fight, flight or freeze.
As a Creator, we will choose our response – even while we acknowledge to ourselves that we feel victimized – and focus on what we want to create or what our options for action might be. It may be raining, but we can choose to dance.
A corollary to this saying is one of my favorites: “Don’t curse the darkness, light a candle” (the subject of one of my earliest blogs).