A couple weeks ago, I was honored to share The Power of TED* in a breakout session of the Northwest Conference on Behavioral Health and Addictive Disorders in Seattle. While there, I was also able to listen to a number of excellent and well-known speakers in the field. Almost all of them spoke not only about substance addictions but also about behavior addictions, like gambling.
I have seen and experienced the seduction of gambling that comes from the winning draw of a card in Blackjack and the hit of a jackpot on a slot machine. The rush from winning fuels the addiction of anticipation for another hit, whether it is a card or a spin of the wheel. Usually the result is disappointment (“you can’t beat the house”) interlaced with just enough wins to keep one going.
While this may be controversial to some, I believe that we are addictive beings – us human beings – and that addiction often is rooted in, and perpetuated by, both the problem-focused, anxiety-based and reactive Victim Orientation and the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) ™ roles of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer. The addiction serves as a “Rescuer,” which helps the Victim numb out or distance from their feelings of powerlessness in the face of the challenges (i.e. Persecutors) of life.
So, today I am doubling down on the possibility of living on purpose and being at choice. That is my hope. Each choice – each Baby Step – is another card played or spin of the wheel. The rush of “winning” will come from the unanticipated “jackpots” of serendipity, synchronicity and breakthroughs that “hit” from gambling on hope and co-creating consciously.