Envisioning outcomes – and taking Baby Steps in creating them – is a central focus of being a Creator. In training sessions and working with clients, we coach clients to be as clear as they can in describing the vision of their outcome. Robert Fritz’s very powerful question of “If you had what you want, how would you know it?” leads us to define the qualities, characteristics and other descriptors of the result.
One example was David’s writing of The Power of TED*. When he first set out to write the book, he outlined his ideas and clarified a number of criteria he envisioned. These included conveying in simple language the essential concepts and frameworks, which someone could read it in a few hours (his image was that someone could pick the book up in the bookstore at the Los Angeles airport and finish it by the time they landed in Chicago).
His assumption was that the book would be non-fiction, consistent with his professional background in leadership development, and would be more business focused. Writing a fable as a teaching story on “self-leadership” was the furthest thing from his mind.
That was until he actually came up with a name for the alternatives to the Karpman Drama Triangle which, of course, became TED* (The Empowerment Dynamic*) ™. By giving the concept a name, our publishing coach at the time (Ceci Miller) encouraged David to write a story with a character named TED – a prospect that felt daunting and out of his comfort zone at the time.
However, he considered the suggestion in light of his criteria and saw that writing a fable was not only within the boundaries of what he saw as “non-negotiable” but actually might better fit them than a non-fiction approach.
If he had held to “the way it’s gotta be is a non-fiction book,” what emerged would have taken on a much different form and may have not touched as many people. For this, we are very grateful.
The lesson here is that, as you envision the outcomes you want to create in your life and work, clarify the essential elements – the non-negotiables – and let go of the rest as to how it’s got to be. Leave room for serendipity and synchronicity to occur and stay open to alternative possibilities. In that new and more open “creating space” all kinds of magic may morph the final form it takes.