(People often ask about tips to putting The Power of TED* into practice on a daily basis. In response, I developed the 7 Daily Practices. These seven relatively simple – though not always easy – daily disciplines will increase your capacity to live as a Creator and cultivate TED* roles and relationships.)
7. End of the Day of Reflection
Finally, at the end of the day, take at least 10 minutes to reflect back on the day. You may choose to do this while flossing, brushing your teeth and preparing for bed.
Better yet, sit in a chair in a quiet room for 10 minutes.
Replay the day in much the same way as the every-two-hour-time-out. Ask yourself the following questions:
- Looking back, when were you operating from the problem-focused Victim Orientation and when were you centered in the Creator Orientation?
- What were your successes – what went well? What did you do that supports your intention to live more consistently as a Creator?
- What roles did you take on in the course of the day?
- When you fell into a Dreaded Drama Triangle role, if you could declare a “do over,” how might you have made the shift into the corresponding more empowered and resourceful TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) role?
- If you were reacted as a Victim, how could you have shifted into a Creator and chosen a different response? If Persecutor, how might you have stepped up as a Challenger? And if a Rescuer, how could you have served, instead, as a Coach?
- What were the lessons learned from the day?
As you review the day, don’t judgethe day or yourself as good or bad – just discern where you are and how you might continue to grow. Then let the day go, know that you will begin tomorrow by refocusing on the outcomes you want to create in your life.