Growing up, we both heard these phrases from our parents: “Be nice, Donna, and get along.” David heard “you have to learn to share,” and “don’t fight” was a favorite. Our parents did the best they could, and what many of these phrases taught us was to be overly agreeable. We humans are drawn to […]
“Once I reach my goal, I will be happy,” is what most people say when they set a goal. What is problematic about this approach to life is the idea that your happiness is somewhere in the future and not available to you now. Goals, by their nature, fool you into thinking that outside circumstances […]
The month of July hosts several Independence Day celebrations around the world. July 1st was Canada’s Independence Day and the “4th of July” is recognized in the US as the day the states became free and independent from the tyranny of a foreign king. The current global disruption is showing the world that freedom exists, […]
“Power to the People” was an anthem song written by Beatle John Lennon in the early 1970s. Somewhat like today, it was a period of social unrest. But what is “power?” Merriam-Webster has two definitions that are particularly relevant to considering your relationship to power: Possession of control, authority, or influence over others; and The […]
When you think about it, your life unfolds one conversation at a time. Therefore, the quality of your conversations has a lot to do with the quality of your life. Everyone involved in better conversations has a good chance of receiving these benefits: Feeling heard, affirmed, and appreciated, which leads to more connection; Experiencing clearer […]
Since the beginning of the pandemic, life has changed in countless ways. You may appreciate this break to reset how you live and work. Of course, for many it is a scary and extremely difficult time of uncertainty. Several years ago, a high-tech executive coined the phrase “continuous partial attention” or the new CPA. She observed that most […]
Those who study human behavior describe two primary ways of seeing life. This approach is sometimes called the “human iceberg effect,” because most of us can explain the 5% of our beliefs that are above the water line, but may be unconscious to the 95% of our beliefs that run our internal dialogue. It is […]
Watching a young toddler play the “peek-a-boo” game is such joy. It’s the laughter and connecting that elicits the giggles each time the toddler yells; “Do it again!” Wouldn’t it be great if you could take a “do over” moment when you have said something you didn’t mean, or you make a mistake you want […]
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Dear Readers, This week we are republishing an essay from a year ago because we feel the topic is so relevant to today’s challenges. When you read the first paragraph you will chuckle because life is so different now, yet the core message can support you, your families, and co-workers through these times. Here’s to the Creator […]