Two days after Christmas we left for a working vacation to create our vision for 2020. We wanted and needed a break from the winter dark and cold that settles over the Pacific Northwest part of the US where we live. Donna was especially excited about our New Year’s retreat and took the initiative to […]
Across cultures, religions, and continents, this time of year is a universal season of gift giving. In the Western world the holiday season begins months ahead and the rushing and buying can add to an already manic pace of modern life. With the hurrying around and dashing about, please pause for a moment, now, to […]
Talk is constant and pretty “cheap” these days. Anyone, anywhere, anytime can post a comment on the many social media sites and talk, talk, talk. There are over 60 billion social media posts per day and the average person spends 140 minutes each day on social media! But W.A.I.T. and ask yourself: “Why Am I […]
If you stop and listen, it is amazing how many voices we all have in our heads. It’s part of the perplexing human experience and sometimes it is confusing to know which voice to listen to. We have discovered that our Victim voice tends to “yell” while our Creator voice “whispers.” The Dreaded Drama Triangle […]
Great questions trigger ideas and powerful new insights. Depending on the tone and intention behind your questions, they can also come across as condescending and manipulative. What is the secret behind an empowered question that can unlock creativity and invite others to open-up and share? You may be asking zillions of questions and have bits […]
Solving a problem works really well when you need specific information. If your computer isn’t working, you need concrete information about how to get it working again. If you have the wrong address for an appointment, that’s a problem. You need the correct address. Life and relationships are far more complex. When it comes to […]
Drama is something that everyone experiences. Have you ever wondered why that is? Let’s start at the beginning and ask: How does our drama begin in the first place? The simple, yet complex, explanation is that all of us as human beings learn and develop strategies to get what we want as children and to […]
A few months ago, Donna returned from the grocery store with several bags of groceries in her car. David came out of their home to help her with the bags and she immediately declared, “Nope, I don’t need any help.” David went back into the house. Over the next few days Donna reflected upon why […]
When driving an unfamiliar car, one of the first things you may do is adjust the mirrors, looking for the car’s blind spots. Like a car, your mind also has blind spots. The mind’s blind spots are a way of narrowing what you can take in. You can’t notice everything or you would be on […]
In last week’s essay, we suggested a specific tip to interrupt your reactive, drama-filled behavior by “Naming 5 Red Things.” That tip was focused on how you can limit your drama. What about being with others when they are having a “drama attack?” What do you do? What do you say? We have several suggestions, but […]