We have noticed that some days both of us can complain a lot. The complaints might be about everyday things, such as not sleeping well, we’re out of our favorite coffee, or bigger complaints about the state of the world. We have also noticed that every time we complain, there’s a little voice inside of […]
Picture this scene: You are rushing out the door from work heading to soccer practice to pick up your young daughter. Your boss catches you and says, “We really need your project report in the morning.” “Sure” you say, “it’s all but done. See you tomorrow,” and you keep running to your car. On the […]
Mistakes happen. They always have and always will, at least from time-to-time. Mistakes are part of the creating process and sometimes lead to breakthrough innovations. For example, a chef trying to make thin-sliced fried potatoes resulted in what we know as potato chips. A chemical scientist thought he had failed when his search for a […]
Recovering from the “eager-to-please” syndrome that is deeply rooted in the Rescuer role of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), can be a challenge. When being the Rescuer is your “go to” role in the DDT, you easily take on being helpful and pleasing to others as a self-identify. Your focus is on the needs of […]
We all have responsibilities and obligations. It is part of being in relationships with family, co-workers, neighbors, and life. Donna shares a story about one morning – years ago as a full-time working mom, wife and mother with 3 children – when she woke up and realized she wasn’t responsible for the sun rising that […]
Your body becomes healthier when you make an intentional decision to eat a balanced diet and adopt a regular exercise routine. You can’t simply watch others eat healthy and exercise and expect that their habits will change your body. That’s ridiculous. You’ve got to do the work if you want optimum health. The same goes […]
When we started using the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) to help us observe our own drama, both personally and in our marriage, we started asking some basic questions like “How does this drama get started in the first place?” “What is a better way to relate to ourselves and one another?” As we researched the […]
bMany people were happy to see 2018 end. Globally, it was a stressful year with plenty of drama to go around for everyone. Looking toward the New Year, there is always a hope that things will change for the better. However, before you can create something new, you must leave the old behind. Every transition […]
Learning about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles of Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer is often a huge epiphany for people. Once shared, the DDT roles are easy to recognize because they line-up with the flight, flight, freeze, or appease reactive mechanism that is built into the human psyche. Becoming more aware of personal drama is […]
As young school children we are taught to ask the teacher for help and receive feedback to help us learn. As adults, giving feedback to one another can evoke a strong defensive reaction. We know this defensive response all-too-well. Since we co-facilitate the Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) workshops together, after each workshop we […]