The purpose of our TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic)™ work is to help liberate people from their drama and struggle so they can be of service to the world. Over the past few years we have had the opportunity to observe in ourselves and others two different approaches to how people address their life struggles.
The first approach is to say: “Just tell me what to do. Give me the magic potion to stop this drama.”
The second approach is to see the struggle and drama as useful. Rather than wishing the struggles away, they get really curious about what is in the struggle for them to learn.
If you simply say, “Why is this issue so difficult? Why can’t it just go away?” you may lose the opportunity to learn from it and surely the patterns will repeat and the drama will return.
Life can be difficult. However, if you can learn to be with your struggle it will show you what you are being called to learn. If you only see drama as something to get rid of, rather than to learn from, then you will remain in that drama-filled state of the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™. The struggle itself will become the struggle, and you will forever be a Victim to the persecuting struggle.
Here is a metaphor that may be useful. If you have a broken arm, you don’t ask the doctor to cut off your arm. You ask the doctor to x-ray it, understand the nature of the break, recommend a treatment plan, apply a cast and go through physical therapy to rebuild your arm strength.
Why we love the TED* work is because it helps us diagnosis our drama and see the pattern. With the help of TED*, we see a healthier, more empowering way to live—similar to the doctor assisting you with a treatment plan to strengthen your arm.
There is a part of you–the Creator in you—that is trying to get your attention. It wants you to wake up. It is your higher self that is wanting to emerge through the struggle.
Please remember that the conflicts, drama and struggles that you have in your life, whether at home or work, are probably not showing up by accident. They have appeared because your unique patterns and habits have created Challengers to your happiness. The Challenger, in TED*, calls forth learning and growth. It is a beautiful arrangement if you can allow yourself to view it that way.
Struggle can be viewed as a red flag: “Pay attention to me!” might be what it would say, if it could talk. As you learn to look at your unique, only-one-on-this-earth life, you will see that your individual struggle is designed for only you to learn.
The struggle can be a curse or a blessing. We choose to see it as a blessing. How about you?