As we get ready to say good-bye to 2017 and welcome 2018, we want to share our 3 most popular essays of the year. Thank you for following along on the journey as we all learn how to grow and create together. To the Creator in You and may your 2018 be awesome!
David Hager, a good friend and colleague tells a wonderful story about his strong-willed daughter and how, one day in response to a potential family drama, she simply said, “I could change my mind.”
Wouldn’t it be great if, as an adult, when faced with drama and struggle, you could simply choose to change your mind and let the struggle go? What a genius way to avoid the drama in the first place! READ MORE
When you find yourself in the Victim role, the strategy is to “move away” from the conflict and/or “freeze” in the face of the situation or person you perceive as a Persecutor. When in the drama you believe you don’t have the power or ability to do things for yourself. You become resigned to the idea that life happens “to you,” so you avoid taking responsibility for your choices or actions. READ MORE
The Rescuer role is the “pain reliever” in the Drama Triangle and focuses on those who need help (or so the Rescuer interprets). Denying that they have any needs themselves, a Rescuer’s internal dialogue may be: “I would rather be helpful to others and fix the world’s problems than focus on my own needs.”
While this may appear to be a laudable desire, there are at least three central delusions that explain the Rescuer’s obsessive focus on others. READ MORE